Is Today the Day?

Is Today the Day?

Is today the day you have that a-ha moment about something?

Is today the day that you start your gratitude list? And the more you realize what you’re grateful for, the more you also realize that you’ve got a lot of good things going for you.

Is today the day that you start a personal accomplishments list? And the more you realize what you’ve accomplished so far in life, the more you realize that you really can accomplish anything that you want to do as long as you begin the journey.

Is today the day that you realize that a simple act of committing as little as five minutes a day to yourself can be the action that propels you on your journey toward accomplishing something you always wanted to do?

Is today the day that you decide to have a conversation with someone about something that just hasn’t been feeling right for a while? And after you have the conversation, you might discover that there were assumptions and misunderstandings at play that were leading to the uncomfortable feelings. And now things feel right again.

Is today the day that a total stranger walks into your life and says exactly the thoughts you’ve been thinking for a while? And this gives you validation that what you’ve been thinking isn’t so crazy after all.

Is today the day that you find your voice? You’ve had this thought that you’ve been dying to share but you’ve been holding back because you’re not sure what people will think of you. Is today the day that you share that thought and the sheer act of saying it out loud gives you the courage to say it over and over again because people need to hear what you’ve got to say?

Is today the day that you really and truly take an opportunity to dance like no one iss watching?

Is today the day that you realize that you don’t have to be perfect in everything that you do? And you realize that whatever you learn from any mistakes you make along the way will actually help you far more than they’ll hurt you.

Is today the day that you start to live your life exactly as you want to for YOU, and you know that whenever the end comes, you’ll have absolutely no regrets?

Is today the day that you start to notice all of the beauty around you? You hear the birds singing, you smell the flowers, you see the moon and the night stars.

Is today the day that you decide to forgive everything and everyone that has been eating at you? Including yourself.

Is today the day you unleash the chains that have been holding you back from your dreams? You realize that everything holding you back is nothing more than a series of limiting beliefs and you realize that you can snap every one of them as you move forward in the direction of your dreams.

Is today the day you choose to spend not worrying about anything?

Is today the day you decide to stop waiting and start living?

Is today the day that you look in the mirror and just love the person looking back at you, imperfections and all?

Is today the day that you tell someone how much you appreciate them for what they do or represent for you?

Is today the day that you embrace any fear inside of you, give it a big hug and say “come on honey, you’re going to enjoy the ride” and you scream WWWWhhhhhEEEEeeee!! as you run out the door?

Is today the day you realize that everything you do makes a difference, and that no one is too small to make a BIG difference?

Is today the day that you realize that we’re all in this together?

Is today the day that you choose to be UNAPOLOGETICALLY YOU?

If not today, then WHEN?

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{Editor’s Note: Ken has moved his blog to www.kenjaques.com. He will be re-posting the blogs at this site for a short time, but will soon only be posting to the new site. Please come over and check out the new site.}

Namaste, Ken

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We’re Moving

Greetings,

I’m very excited to share that Ken’s blog has moved to a new home at www.kenjaques.com. All of the old blog stories have been copied over to the new web site and many new features have been added.

Home Page and About Ken — These sections provide more background into “Ken’s story” and the messages that he is sharing.

Sign Up — A new sign-up option has been provided. If you don’t want to miss any blogs, or if you’d like to be made aware of any online courses or upcoming speaking engagements in your area, why not sign up to stay in touch.

Guest Blogs — The Guest Blog section is to highlight like-minded individuals who want to share their stories. Check it out. If you’d like to contribute please send an e-mail to ken@kenjaques.com.

Community Involvement — The Community Involvement section is a call for stories. We’d really like to hear from you if you have a story that you’d like to share. We may even include the story in an upcoming blog, with your permission of course.

Speaking Engagements — Ken is available for several types of speaking engagements as highlighted in the Speaking Engagements section.

We hope you like the new site, and look forward to continuing to share stories.

Namaste, Ken

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Are You a Health Care Evolutionary?

What do you call yourself? If someone asked you that question, how would you answer it?

Some of you might say that you’re a doctor, a lawyer or a priest (that sounds like the start of a joke, doesn’t it?). Others might say you’re a housewife, a factory worker, or an engineer. I remember hearing a friend of mine answer that question in a round circle setting and she said something like “what I do is I’m a consultant, but who I am is something different.” That gave me pause for thought and brought back a memory.

I was at a celebration for a successful fundraising event and the chairman of the board for the organization asked me “what do you do?” Thoughts ran through my head on how to answer this relatively mundane question that should have been a fairly simple answer “I run a successful IT consulting company”, but I couldn’t get those words to come out. In what was probably only a second or two, but which seemed like an eternity for me, the words that finally came out were “I help people” and strange as it may sound, that just felt right. In the IT consulting business that I run, that’s exactly what we do. We help people. We help organizations solve challenges that they have, and the better we help them, the more they ask us to help them again. It’s a fairly simple model when your focus is on helping others, and being of service. And that premise is probably the biggest reason for our success.

Over the past couple of years I have developed another passion as a result of being diagnosed with an autoimmune disease, rheumatoid arthritis. While the IT consulting business is my “day job”, I have come to understand a lot about autoimmune disease and I have started challenging my own belief systems. I have been blogging about this for several months and I have achieved a lot of personal growth as a result of this new found passion. My belief systems today are quite different than they were two years ago. I have received tremendous support for the stories I’ve shared in my blog and I have met some amazing people along the way, a whole new set of friends and colleagues with a passion for understanding dis-ease and illness, and doing our part to make a difference. I regularly converse with doctors and other health care practitioners, people who have been diagnosed with dis-ease, and people that have been touched by dis-ease through friends, relatives or co-workers. The discussion almost always comes around to “there has to be a better way” and “what can we do about it?”

In a discussion with one of my colleagues last week, the same question came up, “what would you call yourself?” In this case “we help people” didn’t feel quite right, and what I blurted out was “health care evolutionary”. That seemed to have a certain ring to it, so I’ve let it ruminate in my head for a week or so and it still sounds right.

What is a health care evolutionary? And why not a health care revolutionary?

For me, revolution sounds and feels like a battle. And a battle has a winner and a loser. I don’t see it that way. I see it as a natural process in that we as a society learn to adapt to new knowledge. As we learn more, our belief systems change and we evolve naturally. In my most recent blog “Our Bodies Can Heal”, I wrote about a changing belief system in which a belief of the seemingly impossible accomplishment of running a sub four minute mile first became probable, then inevitable, until the milestone was ultimately achieved … several times.

I recently spoke with a friend who works at a sugar refinery and he commented that sales were down quite a bit. While this may have been a blip, the thought that went through my mind was that as people’s belief systems toward sugar were changing and more and more people were trying to cut back, a logical result would be that sugar sales would be down. We’ll see if the trend continues but it certainly makes you think doesn’t it? And to me this is an evolution of sorts as we adapt to new knowledge and change our behaviour accordingly.

Well I see the same thing happening with our health care system as we learn to listen to the messages our bodies give us that help us prevent dis-ease in the first place, and the body’s ability to heal itself from dis-ease when that does happen. But I don’t see this as a revolution. If this is shoved down our throats, we would hardly listen. But as more and more people start to hear and share stories of success and belief systems start to shift ever so slightly, I believe that change is inevitable. It’s a movement. It’s an evolution. And as the graphic at the top of this blog attempts to show with humour, our health care system and how we deal with illness and dis-ease has been on its own path of evolution for thousands of years. Our bodies can heal, and it’s time for some evolutionary thinking and action.

Maybe this story is the one that shifts your belief system ever so slightly, or maybe it’s the first time you’ve thought about the idea. Maybe you think this is a lot of hooey, but then you hear someone else talking about the same type of thing next week. Maybe you’re already an evolutionary and you have a tribe of folks that can’t wait to hear your thoughts and beliefs. Maybe you know someone personally who has been miraculously healed, or maybe you’ve heard a few stories. Maybe if you ask your circle of friends if they’ve ever heard of such a thing, one or more of them will share a story about someone they know or heard of that had been healed.

I believe that the shift is ever so subtle. There really does have to be a better way.

Could it be as simple as a slight change in our belief systems?

What do I call myself? Well Superman may have been “Clark Kent, beat reporter” by day with a superhero alter-ego when called upon, I think I am an IT consulting business man by day and a “health care evolutionary” when called upon.

What would you call yourself? Are you a health care evolutionary? Can we call upon you when needed? Are you part of the evolution?

If you’re one of those people, let us know. Follow on twitter (@kenjaques) or Facebook (www.facebook.com/kenjaques23), or simply reply by email to ken@kenjaques.com.

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Our Bodies Can Heal

What do you get when you mix a success story, a law and an old belief system? If you shake it up real well, you just might come out with a new belief system.

The Success Story

I was listening in on a teleseminar this week hosted by Dr. Lissa Rankin and her colleague Amy Ahlers. During the call they brought up the story about the first sub-four minute mile ever run. Well, I know my sports history quite well so I knew that this was the story of Roger Bannister who ran the first sub-four minute mile in 1954. So as they told the story, I was only partially listening. But after they told the story about Roger’s accomplishment, they went on to tell “the rest of the story”. Over the next fairly short time period, several other runners went on to also run a sub-four minute mile including a famous race just forty-six days later when John Landy and Roger Bannister both ran the mile in under four minutes (Bannister won the race). Each of these multiple runners had all been pursuing the goal of running the mile in under four minutes and was hoping to be the first to do so. There were many contributing factors to Bannister being the first, but the point that resonates with me is that some athletes came up with the goal of breaking the four-minute mile, decided that they would be able to do it and were willing to do the work to achieve it, put their minds and all their training into the task and ultimately many succeeded within a fairly short time frame.

For the longest time, many people had thought that this feat could never be achieved. Athletes had been running faster and faster over the years, but this four minute mark seemed to be a real barrier and most people doubted that it could be really achieved. From an athlete perspective, these runners obviously had strong beliefs that they would be able to accomplish the goal but they really didn’t know how. There was nobody to define the training regimen that would be best suited to achieving the goal, and as much as they were getting closer and closer all the time, I can’t help but think that there had to be some semblance of doubt even in their own minds. I’m sure the fact that each athlete knew that other athletes were also getting closer and closer to the barrier helped to propel them more and push them even harder toward their individual goal. But there’s no denying that once it happened, it just kept happening. Today’s world record time for the mile is 3:43:15, more than 15 seconds under four minutes, and virtually every athlete that competes in a world class event has run the mile in under four minutes.

To tie the success story into this blog, here’s how I see this. Prior to 1940, the breaking of the four minute mile was seen by most as “impossible”, and that represented a limiting belief. By the 1950’s as times were getting faster, the ability to break the barrier had moved to a state of “improbable”. In May of 1954, the size of the crowd gathered to watch the race made it clear that many thought the breaking of the barrier was now “inevitable”. What was once the impossible, became the improbable, and was now the inevitable, and the limiting belief was gone forever.

The Law

Over the past several years, more and more people have been exposed to the Law of Attraction as described in books like Napoleon Hill’s “Think and Grow Rich”, “The Secret” and by many other authors and speakers. According to Wikipedia: “The law of attraction is a pseudoscientific belief or theory, that “like attracts like,” and that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts, one can bring about positive or negative results.” This blog isn’t about the law of attraction, but rather to set the background for the next section of the blog, so let’s move on to the belief system.

Belief System

The belief system I have been focused upon for the past couple of years relates to our current state of health especially as it relates to illness and dis-ease. It seems to me that we are constantly being reminded that “sickness is inevitable” and that almost everyone is going to get a dis-ease of some description. We hear that “1 in 9 women get breast cancer”, on twitter someone’s status is “if you are over 40, you have a 50% chance of developing arthritis, RA, or osteoarthritis this year”, and the reminders go on and on. There are fundraisers all over the place to help raise the awareness of some of these conditions. I bet almost everyone has heard of “Mo-vember”, a campaign that runs in November of each year to raise vital funds and awareness for men’s health, specifically prostate cancer. While this is one example, we all know of many other examples of campaigns to raise funds to battle illnesses and diseases.

It seems to me that we have created a belief system throughout society that “sickness is inevitable”. I personally have a belief system that “death is inevitable”, but I’m not so comfortable with the belief system that “sickness is inevitable”.

Let’s Shake it up Real Well

Tying the Success Story, the Law and the Belief System above together, here’s what I get. Today represents our 1954, and we’re looking at things the wrong way in our “like attracts like” model as it relates to our health. We’re focused on the problem (dis-ease and illness) and not the solution (health and wellness). And if we think about the Law of Attraction, if we focus on illness we attract illness, but if we focus on wellness, we will attract wellness. Like 1954, there are a multitude of people that believe that dis-ease and illness can be lessened significantly if we bring our attention to the other side of the picture.

“In order to change an existing paradigm you do not struggle to try and change the existing and problematic model. You create a new model and make the old one obsolete.” R. Buckminster Fuller

To shake things up, here is a small sampling of things that we “know” today. The stories may not be that well shared but more and more people are becoming aware of the stories and are starting to examine their own belief systems:

  • We know that our bodies are designed to heal themselves. They do so already after we get cuts and bruises and broken bones.
  • There is scientific evidence that our beliefs affect our outcomes. Several movies and scientific experiments have been conducted that offer proof of this (look up whatthebleep.com for the water crystals experiment as an example, there are hundreds of stories available online).
  • There are many cases of spontaneous remission of illness and dis-ease. In many cases it is unexplainable, but there appears to be a consistency where the patient takes on a belief system that the illness isn’t going to stay with them. You may well know someone that has experienced this.
  • For many people that are diagnosed with terminal illness doctors seem to get it right many times. Gregg Braden and others propose that part of the reason for their accuracy is that people accept the diagnosis (6 months, 2 years, etc to live). Braden also goes on to describe stories where people have chosen not to accept the prognosis, visualize the illness as no longer there, and find out later that the condition has “miraculously” disappeared.
  • The Eastern medical system is fundamentally based on the belief in the body’s ability to heal itself from any condition and is focused on treating the root cause of the illness rather than the symptoms. This system has been in place for thousands of years, far longer than our current Western medical system.
  • The Western medical system is focused on treating the symptoms, often with a “medication first’ approach. While this has helped people relieve symptoms in many cases, there are often negative side effects that lead to other conditions.
  • We know that the patient taking responsibility for their own health and doing the necessary work to maintain their health is a key to success, yet many of us look for the “silver bullet” from the medicine cabinet rather than doing the work to deal with our own root causes of symptoms.
  • There are hospitals inChina(at least one) where practitioners practice healing without drugs, using a chanting approach focused on removing tumors through, and the tumors have been shown to shrink.

New Belief System

Let me close this blog with a series of “What If? questions.

  • What if we had awareness campaigns that focused on our health as opposed to our unhealthy states?
  • What if we had readily available statistics and resources that focused on promoting people’s returning to health?
  • What if people were taught from a young age that dealing with the root cause of any condition was the real key to healing?
  • What if we removed the ads from TV that focus on people getting sick?
  • What if we realized that continual focus on the problem actually exacerbates the problem, and that focus on the solution speeds up the acceptance of the solution?
  • What if for every “sickness campaign”, there was a corresponding “wellness campaign”?

It’s 1954 folks and the four minute mile is about to be broken as it relates to health care. Our belief system is changing. More and more people are transforming their beliefs every day. Health and happiness for all is no longer an impossible dream, and I don’t even thing it’s improbable any more. I think it’s inevitable.

Can our belief systems change? Which belief system do you have?

In closing, I’d like to add a personal note. I am working with a group of people that call ourselves “health care evolutionaries”. Some of the people are doctors, others are “ordinary” people like you and me that have transformed their belief systems, and all of us know that the time for changing the paradigm is NOW. We know that many people out there have the same beliefs because they’ve told us that they do.

If you’re one of those people, let us know. For now, you can follow on twitter (@kenjaques) or Facebook (www.facebook.com/kenjaques23), or simply reply by email to ken@kenjaques.com.

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The Power of “WE”

Will you have more success by co-operating or by competing?

In one of my earlier blogs regarding the concept of Love vs. Fear, I wrote about two comparisons of love and fear being Community vs. Alone, and Cooperation vs. Competition. Thanks to a reader’s comment that reminded me that in that blog, I went on to describe my thoughts regarding the Community vs. Alone concept, but I neglected to elaborate on the Cooperation vs. Competition comparison.

So what is competition? In business, a company must defeat or at least outdo the competition in order to “get ahead”. They have to ensure that they create the best marketing story to ensure that any potential customers decide to buy their product rather than the competition’s. From a “competition” perspective, this is the nature of the business world, it’s one of those things that “just is what it is”, and I’m okay with that. If I have the best product or service, it’s up to me to tell my story in a way that my potential customers understand.

But sometimes it seems like there are ulterior motives driving this competition. I’ve recently heard stories where a company learns of one of its competitor’s shortcomings and decides to create a marketing plan to exploit the weakness. So far so good; if a product is inferior then the natural “instinct” of the competitor is to point out the weakness. But it turns out that the original company has the same shortcomings with its own product. But not to worry, that fact can be hidden. If a full out frontal attack is set up against the competitor, no one will stop to ask if “our” product has the same issue. What? Seriously? Does this feel “right?” Does this feel like the “spirit” of competition? Does this not feel like the company is seeking to deceive the public? The sad part is that this type of deception happens all the time. It happens in the pharmaceutical industry, it happens in the telecommunications industry, it happens everywhere.

It seems to be that the sheer definition of competition – when looked at this way – implies that there’s not enough of something to go around so we have to compete for it. Is this true? Is there not enough to go around? Or is it that the company is driven by a form of greed for the purpose of “increasing shareholder value” or “maximizing employee and executive bonus plans?” To be clear, I’m not suggesting that all companies are like this, but it seems like the bigger companies get, the more they become focused on a “win at all costs” mentality that doesn’t necessarily serve the “greater good”.

Enough about competition, where does cooperation fit in? A very common word that I’m hearing nowadays is “collaboration”, working together with others such that all parties achieve more than they could on their own. I don’t think I can describe collaboration any better than the following story.

An anthropologist studying the habits and customs of an African tribe found himself surrounded by children most days. So he decided to play a little game with them. He managed to get candy from the nearest town and put it all in a decorated basket at the foot of a tree.

Then he called the children and suggested they play the game. When the anthropologist said “now”, the children had to run to the tree and the first one to get there could have all the candy to him/herself.

So the children all lined up waiting for the signal. When the anthropologist said “now”, all of the children took each other by the hand and ran together towards the tree. They all arrived at the same time, divided up the candy, sat down and began to happily munch away.

The anthropologist went over to them and asked why they had all run together when any one of them could have had the candy all to themselves.

The children responded: “Ubuntu. How could any one of us be happy if all the others were sad?”

Ubuntu is a philosophy of African tribes that can be summed up as “I am what I am because of who we all are.”

Bishop Desmond Tutu gave this explanation in 2008 :

“One of the sayings in our country is Ubuntu – the essence of being human. Ubuntu speaks particularly about the fact that you can’t exist as a human being in isolation. It speaks about our interconnectedness. You can’t be human all by yourself, and when you have this quality – Ubuntu – you are known for your generosity. We think of ourselves far too frequently as just individuals, separated from one another, whereas you are connected and what you do affects the whole World. When you do well, it spreads out; it is for the whole of humanity.”

This is the true spirit of human development and cause of human evolution. Ubuntu. Once again, we are proud to say Ubuntu, I am what I am because of who we all are. This is not a story as such, but a feeling to be expressed.

What do I think? I think that in the vein of Love vs. Fear, cooperation is very much based on working together and in the vein of Love. Competition is very much based on thoughts such as Greed, Entitlement and Fear.

 “We must live together as brothers or perish together as fools.”
Martin Luther King Jr.

“It is amazing what you can accomplish if you do not care who gets the credit.”
Harry S. Truman

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Finding Your Passion

Is there something in your life that you are truly passionate about?

Maybe it’s singing, dancing, being a life or a business coach, travelling. Maybe it’s being the best mother, or father, or grandparent that you can be. Maybe you want to make a real difference and aspire to change the world. Whatever it is, you find that whenever you’re talking about or doing this thing or things, you literally feel your energy rising. When you talk about it, your voice may rise or speed up, you might even start talking with your hands, the excitement is obvious. You can’t help the smile from coming to your face, and the overall “feel good” feeling goes right to your bones. Aaaahhhh, you start to smile just thinking about the next time you’ll experience it.

There are a few things that I’m passionate about and I like to keep visions of these things in the back of my mind, ready for quick recall, especially for cases when I’m doing something I’m a bit less passionate about. Like paying the bills, or raking the lawn. For some of you, gardening and raking the lawn might be something you’re passionate about as you love your garden. For me, I love my garden but raking the lawn is a chore that simply has to be done and while I love the end result, I might bring up visions of my next golf game while I’m moving from the front yard to the back to complete the raking. Yup, as soon as I’m done the back yard, I’m outta here and off to the golf course. And a smile crosses my face. See ya in a few hours honey.

Passion is one of the most pleasant emotions we experience. Dr. Bruce Lipton writes about the Honeymoon Effect and that experience of complete joy that we walk around with while we’re in a honeymoon period, and it’s a period full of passion. Whether it was the honeymoon period associated with a new relationship or marriage, or a new car or a new job, we remember those periods as the best days of our lives. And they were probably the healthiest times of our life as well.

So what if we lived every day doing something we’re passionate about, even if only for a few minutes? What if we made that commitment to ourselves to do something every day that we were passionate about, or to take steps to living a childhood dream? My belief is that if we were to do this, many of our problems or perceived problems would simply fall away. Every chore, every difficulty that we encounter would become seemingly less difficult as we pulled forth the memory of the last event or the anticipation of the next time we would engage in the particular activity. A quick pause and a couple of deep breaths in the middle of that unwanted but necessary task might be just what the doctor ordered.

You might even find that paying attention to this passion takes you to heights you never thought you could have achieved. I’m sure many authors and sports stars began with a passion and a dream, but no real understanding of what they could become. They worked through whatever obstacles presented themselves and just kept moving forward in the direction of their dreams. As they look back, I think it would be safe to say that they’re glad they followed their passion.

A few years back a video was making its way around the internet. Dr Randy Pausch was a very well-liked and respected university professor at Carnegie-Mellon who was dying of cancer and knew he had only a few weeks to live. He wrote and videotaped his “Last Lecture” about “Really Living Your Childhood Dreams”. This was the message that he wanted to stand at the top of the mountaintops and scream to everyone that would listen. The passion in his lecture was amazing, and the message he left for his kids and the rest of us was truly inspirational. If you missed it, view it here. The video was viewed around the world by millions of people and really made the world stop and pay attention. As I think back on my life journey, this may well have been one of the moments that changed my life.

On a personal note, I have written in a few blogs about my personal journey with an autoimmune condition, and how it was a huge wake-up call for me. Over the last couple years I have really started living my life with a passion, a passion to help people wake up before they get a wake-up call that they don’t want to receive. I have learned so much about what causes disease and other conditions and some of the things that we can do to truly live our best lives and keep our minds, bodies and souls in a condition where disease can not exist. I want to scream from every rooftop and mountain top about my beliefs – how we can understand and shed our limiting beliefs and live our childhood dreams, how we can face fear and stare uncertainty in the face and ask them to move out of the way as we are able to move past them, how living our lives from our authentic truth is so important to our health and well being, how we are all here to STEP into our greatness, and how we can eradicate disease from society. That’s what my last lecture would be, and what the heck, why not start giving it now.

One of my favorite quotes came from “The Last Lecture”:

“The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.” Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture

What would your last lecture be? Or what will your legacy be? If you know what it is and you’re living it to the fullest, don’t change a thing. If you know what you’d like it to be and haven’t quite stepped into it, there’s no time like the present to start.

Will you live your life with passion?

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The Wake-Up Call Before the Wake-Up Call

Are You Hitting “Snooze” On Your Alarm Clock?

I was conversing with someone this week that commented that a lot of people who are in our age bracket are mindlessly moving through their life wondering if this is how it is supposed to be and wishing for something better. In a bit of a rant she asked “But what is it that’s better and what is the cost? We have gotten comfortably numb in our so called safe modes and what we have created around us. There are shackles of doing the right thing, the expectations of others we have allowed to place on us and the big fear of breaking out or even worse, looking up and realizing this is it. If we are holding all those things up, how can we ever let them down? It sure would be nice just to ….. exhale.”

Sound familiar?

In 2008, I had life pretty good. I was running my own IT company that I had started with a business partner in 2005, we were hoping it would take off and make us lots of money. And when it wasn’t, I started really doubting myself. My inside voice (my Inner Fiend) kept calling me a loser, told me the company wasn’t succeeding because I wasn’t good enough. My business partner kept talking to me as if our lack of success was all because of me and I wasn’t being successful selling enough. In hindsight, I realize that he wasn’t really talking to me that way, but that is how I was interpreting it. I was responsible for all the failures. I never stood up for myself, I just kept trekking along hoping things would improve, but they never really did. And then I got sick, with rheumatoid arthritis.

Since then I’ve been on a hell of a journey and if I knew then what I know now, I’m pretty sure I never would have gotten sick. But getting sick was a huge wake-up call for me. If I hadn’t gotten sick, I wouldn’t know what I know now and I wouldn’t be living how I’m living now.

Over the past year and a half, I have constantly been searching for answers to the root cause of dis-ease, and since my disease is an autoimmune condition I have focused more of my readings in that area. The consistent theme that is resonating with me is that the impact of our thoughts has a strong correlation with autoimmune condition. In an autoimmune condition (rheumatoid arthritis, multiple sclerosis, fibromyalgia, vitiligo, lupus, thyroid condition, etc.), the body is literally attacking itself. The immune system slips into overdrive and attacks the body from within, resulting in an autoimmune disorder. But why? While the medical community still doesn’t really know the answer to that question, there have been many studies that have shown a tie in between our thoughts and the resulting condition.

Have you ever paused to think about your limiting beliefs? Many of us have the same ones. I’m not good enough, I’m not lovable, if I say what’s on my mind I might offend someone, I’m not worthy, it’s all my fault, I’m going to fail, if I don’t do something perfectly I’ll be criticized for it. The list goes on and on. You probably have a few of your own that resonate with you. Maybe you have mommy issues, or daddy issues, or abandonment issues. We all have them. The more I read, the more this tie in makes sense to me, especially with autoimmune conditions. If I was walking around all the time thinking that I wasn’t good enough, it was all my fault, and I was a failure, then I was literally beating myself up on the inside. It also makes all the sense in the world to me that my body would respond in kind and start beating itself up. And in my humble opinion, that’s exactly where my autoimmune condition came from.

I’ve spent a lot of time over the past year talking to people about limiting beliefs and helping people realize that the beliefs we have really exist only in our own minds. I don’t know anyone else out there that’s telling me that I’m not lovable, I’m a loser, and it’s all my fault. Nope, it’s just me.

So a couple other thoughts have started to show up in a recurring fashion:

    • Is there a correlation between our limiting beliefs, stress and other types of disease like cancer and heart conditions?
    • If we could understand and shed our limiting beliefs, would we be less likely to develop disease in the first place?
    • Even after we develop disease, could we shed our limiting beliefs and have the body return to a condition where it could start to heal itself?

The good news is that there is scientific evidence showing a possibility that all of these things could be true. But you know what, I don’t give a rat’s ass about the scientific evidence. I’m glad it’s there and people that want to look at the scientific side of things can do so, but I just want to be happy. And I want to live every day of my life such that if I were to go tomorrow, I’d have no regrets. There wouldn’t be anything I looked back on wishing I had tried but never got around to it. What I do recognize is that when I’m happy and doing what I’m supposed to be doing, and I’m not beating myself up, then life is really good.

One of the recurring thoughts I have now is “Healer, heal thyself.” And I’m doing the work. And you know what I think of myself now? I am good enough. I’m not a loser. I don’t doubt myself. I’m not responsible for everything around me. That doesn’t mean that fear doesn’t slip in every once in a while and ask me if I’m sure, but I’ve learned how to work with those thoughts.

I’ve also started to get very bold and I want to do something that really makes a difference. My last blog suggested that the possibility of eradicating disease was just around the corner. And I’m sticking to that. And I’m telling anyone that will listen. I’m issuing a Wake Up Call for people to shed their limiting beliefs and start STEPping into their own greatness. I will be encouraging people to recognize what’s going on in their lives that is eating away at them, and to start dealing with those things now before they get the big wake-up call. I wish I had received this wake-up call before my disease gave me a big wake-up call. Having said that, my big wake up call could have been a lot worse.

Everybody is good enough, everybody is perfect the way they are, but not everybody has taken the time to appreciate their own true value. Many are way more worried about the things they can’t do, or how they think they have to take responsibility for other people’s shi+ show. And as soon as people start to realize that they need to take care of themselves first, they can then truly start to STEP into their own greatness. It’s amazing how when they do this, the Universe steps in to help.

“Once we slice away the muddle obscuring our own value, we will have the time.”

“The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself.” (Mark Caine).

Back to that rant from my colleague, I think I’ve answered the question. And now I think I’ll simply ….. exhale.

Is this your wake-up call? Are you going to hit the “Snooze” button?

Love you,

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Namaste, Ken

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